If you are stuck in a very poor state of constant dissatisfaction with life and are not making any changes (relationships with friends, colleagues, and all aspects of life that just don’t bring you joy), consider that you are in what is known as a “victim cycle” and your only way is to turn it into a “cycle of control”. While this may sound terribly difficult, start with these three simple steps. Positive changes in life will not be long in coming!

1. Pay attention to signs

What are you complaining about right now? Not enough money? Are you in poor physical shape? Do you have unreliable friends? No money — well, start learning new skills, ask your boss for a raise, or get a side job. If you put on extra kilos, remember the last time you put on sneakers and went for a run. If you’re tired of fake friends, limit your contact with them and look for new, strong friendships. The only solution lies in your actions. Remember that symptoms of dissatisfaction increase at the speed of a snowball. What signs are you ignoring? A shrinking bank account, tighter jeans, the annoyance of talking to a manipulative friend? Pay attention to all this. The sooner you notice these signals, the sooner you can change things you don’t like.

2. Don’t be afraid to shift the priority to yourself

Don’t know where to start? Start all your sentences with “I”. Think about how you get stronger and more energetic when you use this pronoun more often. And don’t think you’re selfish! “I can do it!” “I’ll be there!” “I’ll do it!” Let’s say you can’t cook and keep saying things like “Cooking isn’t my thing!” , “I’m not good at anything!” , “This annoys me so much!” Now start saying: “I can learn a couple of cooking hacks”, “I’ll make myself something tasty”, “I’ll do it!” When you start a sentence with “I”, it gives you hope and faith. You even feel different. Because you’re playing an active part! And that means you have power, control, and energy! Just try it and you’ll notice the changes yourself.

3. Positive change will happen when you take full responsibility for your life

When things go wrong, don’t even dare to think it’s anyone’s fault but yours. When you take responsibility, you not only act like a mature person, but you’re also surprised to notice that something wonderful is starting to happen. The magic of managing your life is in your hands! Here are a few ways to activate your responsibility:

● Be honest with yourself When something bad happens, stop for a minute. Place both hands on your heart and ask yourself, “What is the right thing to do?” Your “inner guide” will give you a new direction. And this will only be based on what you’re supposed to do. Don’t try to fix something (someone) or prove anything to another person. All the answers are within you. And your honesty will give you great opportunities.

● Be ready to let go When you’re ready to let go of something (a person, a physical object, a belief), an initial feeling of sadness and regret is followed by a sense of space. This space brings fresh thinking and new opportunities for you. Think about it—nature, for example, does this all the time. Getting rid of something is a natural and healthy process. We don’t care when leaves fall off trees in autumn, right? The tree isn’t dead! It is in the process of being updated.

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